The first appointment is rather different to any that follow. I need basic background information and you may want an explanation of who I am and how I work. All the evidence suggests that whether or not therapy works is largely dependent on how you get on with your counsellor. So this first session is partly about you and I seeing if we are likely to work well together. There is no commitment beyond this first session.
How many sessions will I need?
There are no hard and fast rules. Generally, clients see a significant improvement in 6-12 sessions. It is often useful to arrange a follow up session 1 month and 3 months later. If you find you don’t need the appointment when it comes around, you can cancel.
I have difficulties in my relationship. Should I come alone or with my partner?
Wherever possible, if the problems are focused on the relationship it is more helpful for you both to come. If you can’t manage this, then I can see each of you individually prior to a joint appointment.
I am quite well known locally. Will you tell anyone?
All counselling is confidential though counsellors are supervised. I will however ask your permission to talk to your GP if I have concerns for your well being or those around you.
What is CBT?
Cognitive Behaviour Therapy is a talking therapy where we work together to look at how you think about yourself, the world and other people; how what you do affects your feelings and thoughts and how the way you think and feel affects the way you act. By becoming more aware of your thoughts, feelings and behaviours, you are better able to choose alternatives that will make you feel better.
What is EMDR?
Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing is a therapy that has been proven to work with a range of anxiety related problems which are triggered by trauma. EMDR helps to create new connections between your brain’s memory networks, enabling your brain to process the traumatic memory in a very natural way. The result is that the memory loses its painful intensity and is no longer experienced in the here and now.