Can spring be far behind ? Or why do I feel like working through my depression is one step forward and one step back?

imageThis morning saw some flurries of sleet and snow. Just as we begin to believe winter is done  with us and the spring bulbs offer some colour in the garden. A metaphor for the journey of depression . Not linear but more like a dance.

Clients are sometimes dispirited when their symptoms don’t get better week on week. Rather , like Spring, they experience glimpses of their healed selves . The selves they have perhaps known in the past who had energy and the inclination to engage with life . To live life in abundance .

Symptoms of depression vary from person to person . However , depression is characterised by thought patterns that maintain a depressed mood.  When we are depressed we generally have negative thoughts about ourselves, our experiences and our future . This negativity  can be reflected in our response to the times during therapy when we seem to have made no progress. So it’s important to look to nature to remind us that nothing stays the same . Spring always DOES arrive. The bulbs flower. The sun shines again. Therapy teaches us a new dance which we can enjoy whatever the weather – or life -throws at us. Step by step, sometimes forwards , sometimes backwards and sometimes sideways.

 

The pros and cons of change

IMG_0418Most of us resist change. We know what we like, and we like what we know. Sound familiar?

For many families, the next week or so sees the beginning of another school or college year. BIG changes, first day at school, first day in a new class, first day at college or university or even the change to an empty nest.

It’s all about both letting go and moving forward. Learning to embrace change is an important life lesson, so how can we build our resilience muscles? Resilient people have skills to help them face positive and negative life events. The first step is to accept the things we CAN’T change, and recognise the things we CAN change. By overcoming difficulties in making changes we develop 6 important attributes:-

  • Strength
  • Intelligence
  • Insight
  • Creativity
  • Tenacity

So, whatever the changes may be in your house over the weeks to come, try to see any problems as challenges. As a way of building resilience muscles. Ask yourself what are the pros and cons of staying the same, and what are the pros and cons of accepting change. Good for adults as well as good for children.